The sad fiasco of the 2022 Oscar awards relates directly to the grief process. “You have been taught only to win. Most people living in the so-called civilized parts of the world are so cut off from their sorrow they don’t know what to do except to medicate themselves.”
1) Acknowledge your loss. Don’t brush it off. Large or small, you’ve lost something you value. In this case, it could be friendship, respect of your colleagues, or damage to your image as a celebrity or role model.
Your shadow can help you realize that your value is in who you are, not in your attachments. Realizing this “is the exact shit that makes flowers grow.”
2) Use your fears to take action. You might apologize or take other actions to reduce suffering and bring justice.
3) Acknowledge what you could have done better. Don’t give in to those who only tell you you’re great—there are lots of these in Hollywood! Take responsibility for your actions by connecting with your best self. If you don’t know how, talk to a spiritual guide, therapist, or teacher to find greater understanding and compassion for yourself and others. Denzel Washington played this role when he advised, “At your highest moment, be careful—that’s when the devil comes for you.”
4) Let go, making amends if needed. If you follow the process, you will move into happier, more intentional areas of expression. You have done something wrong, learned from it, and are a better person. Perhaps you repair friendships and re-earn the respect of your peers by partnering with a former foe to promote respectful speech and non-violence to your community—the global community. How about it, guys?
– From LET THAT SHIT GO: LEARN TO PROCESS LOSS AND BE HAPPY by Rose/Joanne Helfrich