Being a Bodhisattva: Simple Steps To Live in Peace

The peaceful face of a bodhisattva, in sculptural form

My best intentions sometimes turn out so unlike what I hoped for that it’s made me wonder how to be in the world at all. I wish to do good works, to relieve some of the suffering of the world. But I’m saddened – and at times horrified – when nothing I do will help, or I feel I have accidentally caused suffering.  

Pondering a recent bout of this, I was reminded of the ancient teachings of the bodhisattva. The word comes from Sanskrit, and is translated as essence of wisdomThe term applies to those who might be considered enlightened and – charitably – those who wish to be better, more peaceful, or more enlightened people (I’m squarely in the latter camp).  Continue reading

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Learn To Grieve Part I: Acknowledge Your Loss

Learn to Grieve is a series of excerpts from the book Let That Shit Go: Learn To Process Loss and Be Happy (available on Amazon). 

Evelyn de Morgan, Demeter Mourning for Persephone

Evelyn de Morgan, Demeter Mourning for Persephone

Grief is a byproduct of sorrow and loss. To grieve is a function of the soul more than the mind, although the mind provides an important layer of required analysis to help you understand the reasons for your sorrow or loss.

Your many reasons for grief have left you somewhat bankrupt of feeling because you have not known how to process your sorrow and loss, that is, learning to grieve. In fact, you have barely recognized some sorrow and loss because you have not been taught to do so. You have been taught to only win.

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Three Reasons Why Suicide is Not the Answer

In my recent book, Let That Shit Go: Learn to Process Loss and Be Happy, I share my frustration with the fact that in spite of the advances in modern science, there are more depressed and suicidal people now than ever. A reader asked, “You mention in your book that you have had a lifelong struggle with anxiety and depression. Did you ever get to the point where you just wanted to end it all? If so, how did you get past it?”  Yes, I’ve considered suicide, and I’m past it for good. Here’s how I did it.

Pablo Picasso, Blue Nude

Pablo Picasso, Blue Nude

I considered suicide when I was in my twenties, but it never felt right. Since it wasn’t my ego’s decision to be born, it didn’t seem like my ego’s decision to die, and that some higher power must know more about why I’m alive, as in “there must be some reason I’m here.”

Yes, I’m an idealist. There’s something to be said for idealism because you tend to see that somehow things will work out even though you don’t know how. (I call this “faith” but there’s no reason to think of it as religious or grand. It’s just having faith in something.) It’s an assumption I choose to make, rather than believing that life has no purpose. Continue reading

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Let Go of Clutter

Henri Matisse, Still Life with Oranges

Henri Matisse, Still Life with Oranges

I asked Rose, “How can I let go of clutter? I try to reuse, recycle, upcycle, and give away what I don’t need, but still feel bad when I can’t do it for everything…

… even cardboard boxes?!”

Rose responded with a nice little version of the simple process described in her book, Let That Shit Go: Learn to Process Loss and Be Happy

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Fine Wherever You Go: Anthony Bourdain Afterlife Interview

Anthony Bourdain Afterlife InterviewI’ve done work as a medium (and wrote a book, The Afterlife of J.D. Salinger: A Beautiful Message from Beyond) but don’t do it often. However, I felt very connected with Anthony Bourdain after his death, as many did, so I thought I’d try to contact him as a kind of “afterlife interview”. 
 
I’m not claiming this is him speaking, but I know it’s not me, and will leave it open to each reader’s interpretation. It was inspired by him, which is why I’m including his photo here. My feeling is that it’s an energy that represents him in a “soul sense” as he makes his transition, as is discussed in esoteric information.  

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